If you’re listing the qualities of your best friends and annoying is not somewhere on the list are they even your friends at all?
But my people annoy me in the best way and I won’t have it any other way.
This is the first post I would be writing that is a request from someone. So? Here you go.
I reached out to a few friends about one thing they’d like me to write about. Well, this angel responded with three. One of which I am very sure would be a series, but I love it.
She said she wanted to know my take on friendship. And it took me all week to write something, not because I was giving it a lot of thought, but more because I wanted to take my time with it.
At every pivotal point in my life, I have been lucky enough to have good friends. And currently, I have the best ones a girl can ask for.
Personally, I don’t have a wide circle. I just had an epiphany lately that I have a borderline, non-existent social life. But one of the things that didn’t make it seem that obvious to me is that I have such great people in my life.
I am not the kind of person who opens up to people easily anyway so it makes sense ….. Kinda.
So what am I talking about today? What is my take on friendship?
I have heard countless times that you should trust no one, don’t rely on anyone, put your faith in no one, etc etc, you get where I’m going with this. But people throw those statements around a lot.
And while they have a certain truth to them, I lean more towards the philosophy that no man is an island and we need people to do life with.
And if me, ‘lil miss lone wolf’ can say that then work with me here, humour me.
I can’t say that I have the formula for finding the perfect friends, heaven knows whatever I did to deserve these ones, but I know a few things.
I know I found these people in good places so it increased the chances of them being good people. I know I prayed that God rid me of strange children so I know that that reduces the chances of me linking up with weirdos, but still…
One of the most remarkable things these guys have done for me was hop on an instantaneous call to pray for me while I made a faith journey to the airport even though my visa hadn’t been approved.
These are guys who ‘annoy’ me into being responsible and chasing my goals.
Can I do life without them? Definitely.
Would I do life without them? No, it would be so much harder.
I think that people should cherish friendships more. I think that it should be a mutual relationship, a give-and-take.
Friendship is a two-way street.
You have to commit just as much as the other person. Now, saying that one should commit just as much as the other person doesn’t mean that the two parties are always going to be at an all-time high.
There are times when my friends have more energy in the relationship than I do, and there are times when it’s the other way around, but the whole essence is we help each other through the good, the bad, and the ugly.
Some of the principles that I try to apply to friendship stem from that.
I mean, in every sense of the word, we have to walk in love with one another, and I get that there are a lot of people who have had bad experiences with people whom they once called friends, but I don’t think that that is enough to shut our hearts against genuine people.
Some of the things that I think are the hallmarks of good friendship and good relationships are if you’re able to help one another through tough times, if you’re able to laugh and joke about things together, if you have the same core values, and if you grow together.
And these are things that are present in my current relationships, and I look at some of these people and I know that we are going to be on this path for a long while because our values are aligned.
So what truly is the summary of my take on friendship?
Friendship is good. Friendship is necessary.
If on your own you can run a thousand miles, with a friend by your side, I’m pretty sure you’d run three thousand.
I do my best to try to express my love for these people as much as I can. And we have had the best time. We’ve walked through thick and thin together, and I am looking forward to whatever the future has in store for us.
You know what, in the light of what I’ve written today, maybe you send your friend an “I love you” message, a sweet text or something while I catch you tomorrow to talk about sent ones.
A lot of times I pick my topic on the day that I’m about to write, but I think for this one, I’ll let you all know ahead of time cause it excites me and I can’t wait to tell you all about it. This is not the end of the friendship thingy thingy either, just a scratch on the surface.
Until next time, remember to spread nothing but love and keep reaching for the stars
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