Being Busy Is Overrated

One of the things I like about finally starting an extension of me that is all about writing is that, since writing comes naturally to me, it means I can pull out my system in the middle of the night and just do some brain dump, like right now where I am typing this at 1am.

Lately, I have being thinking about my friends marriage a lot, and who knows, it my be the gift of the spirit in operation cause that is the only reasonable explanation I can give to my recent obsession with their wedding. Unfortunately, we are all very much single, but again, it could be a sign. Me, I sha know that I want to do owambe quickly. I want to wear a gown that is five inches too long, walking up and down is slippers after taking off my heels, while grabbing the tail of my dress and struggling to walk, wondering what I was thinking when I chose to sow that style, while kneeling up and down for the elderlies

Although one was brazen enough to tell me that she doesn’t want bridesmaids for her wedding. I said ehn? me that I am already choreographing my dance entrance? My strategy is to wear a pretty dress and wait near the door and walk down that isle either way… But that one is story for another day.

When I say that being busy is overrated, I mean every bit of the word. I was having a conversation with a friend and somewhere in between the chat, I wanted to send something to him but I didn’t. I also didn’t reply on time and after I raised it a while later he said that he understood that I must have been busy. There was a part of me that wanted to just go with the flow, I mean being busy is now everybody’s go to for pulling a no show these day right? Being busy is the lie that we tell, or the excuse that we make up just so that we are not called out or held accountable for our actions right?

The thing is, truth be told, it’s not ALWAYS as bad as we paint it to be. Are we ever truly that busy ALL the time?

Our priorities and interest at the said time might not just be tilted towards replying messages. But somewhere between trying not to make the other person feel bad, trying to avoid explanations, or whatnot, we throw the word busy around like its another Tuesday.

Instead, I chose to be straight with him and let him know that I actually got carried away with something else that caught my attention and I forgot, not that I was necessarily busy doing much.

Thinking back a little, I guess it all stemmed from that 2016/2017 era where the amount of unread messages you had just showed how much of a hot cake you were….. Well, it was a thing with my peers around that time. If you cant relate, you are either too old, or you are not from around here. But back to point, it just sort of got normalized afterwards, although I was never really able to join the moving train because for the life of me, seeing anything above twenty unread messages on my phone bothers me.

Even me, I am someone that pulls the busy card from time to time cause its just there. You know how you have a favorite outfit that your hand immediately reaches out for when dressing up, or that favorite knife that you use in the kitchen like it’s the only one there, well, the busy card is like that for me sometimes.

Most times, yes I am actually busy, but even with my busy schedule, there are some people that are exceptions to the rule, who would get an almost immediate response from me no matter what, so really, its more of an excuse from most of us than it is not.

So we need to start owning up to things. It cost nothing to reply on time once in a while, or to actually not pull the busy card when in fact we genuinely are not. and I hope to practice what I preach as well.

Remember to spread nothing but love and keep reaching for the stars.